Is it wrong to make other plans after you said you were busy?
Guilty
The short answer
If you were genuinely busy and something changed, no. If busy was a polite no, the court expects you not to post about it.
The ruling
From the public record. Names are replaced with roles.
Small claims division
Case no.PC-2026-00384
The friend with the birthday v. The friend who went to the concert
Filed 10/05/2026
- Plaintiff
- The friend with the birthday
- Defendant
- The friend who went to the concert
Statement of claim
I invited her to my birthday drinks. She said she was busy with family stuff. That night she posted videos from a concert.
Charge
Declining a birthday invitation for family reasons and attending a concert the same night
Judgment
Guilty
Friend found guilty of family stuff that turned out to be a concert
Sentence
The defendant will take the plaintiff out for a belated birthday drink within two weeks and decline future plans without inventing reasons.
How the court usually rules on this
The court allows people to decline plans without giving reasons. It does not allow a false reason that is then disproved in public. Saying "I can't make it" is always safer than inventing a commitment, and the court will not hold a simple no against anyone.
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